There’s No Grief in a High Mood

I was talking with a client yesterday who has recently broken up with her boyfriend.

Whilst she is still in the throes of the loss, she is beginning to see how the sadness rises when her mood drops.

This is something I really saw for myself too when my partner died.

The experience of loss was strongly present in my low mood and either gone or gentler in a higher mood.

What’s hopeful about this is that our mood is ever-changing, going up and down all day.

Syd Banks said: “We’re all a little bit schizophrenic.”

Have you ever noticed how quickly you change your temperament when you see your pet or your child or tune into something you truly value?

This is true for all of us, so at times in the day my client described also having feelings of happiness and enjoyment and less or no concern about the break-up.

She began seeing the relationship between mood and grief, Thought and Feeling.

Knowing when our mood has dropped is so helpful, it’s a protective balm ensuring that we don’t go down the rabbit hole of scary thoughts.

When we don’t know our mood is involved we can take our grief very seriously and even get stuck there for years.

My client has a gentler experience of grief because she has some space from it.

Instead of beating herself up with “Why am I still feeling this way?” or other criticisms and a focus on the past, she is able to see her mood has dropped when that inner voice turns harsh.

If we leave our mood drops alone and simply pray for a lift in our spirits, soon enough we get it.

In a higher mood there’s a gentler experience of grief and loss. ♥️